“Mother Teresa Holding a Child “painting by Dominique Amendola.
Most world religions have long taught that people should prioritize others over themselves. Charles Darwin didn’t see humankind as biologically competitive and self-interested. He believed we are a profoundly social and caring species and argued that sympathy and caring for others are instinctual.
Proof: Studies have shown that kindness improves well-being, particularly random acts of kindness. Being kind to others can lead to happiness. Nurturing relationships in the family and community, exchanging favors, and elevating status are essential goals that contribute to achieving happiness. Helping others can bring greater happiness than helping oneself, as evolution has emphasized kindness.
How Does it help?
- Release of Feel-Good Hormones: When we do something kind for someone else, our brains release dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin, hormones associated with pleasure and bonding. These hormones can make us feel good and boost our mood.
- It strengthens our relationships. When we are kind to others, they are likelier to be kind to us. This can create a cycle of kindness that can make us feel happier and more connected to others.
- It reduces stress. Kindness can take the focus off of our problems, emphasize the needs of others, and make us feel more positive and relaxed. Kindness promotes a sense of connection and empathy, reducing feelings of isolation and anxiety.
- Improved Mental Health: Regular acts of kindness have been associated with reduced symptoms of depression and anxiety. The positive emotions generated by kind actions contribute to a healthier emotional state.
- It improves our physical health. It has been linked to lower blood pressure, reduced inflammation, a more robust immune system, and overall longevity.
- It gives us a sense of purpose. Doing something kind for someone else can provide us with a sense of purpose and meaning in our lives. This can make us feel more fulfilled and satisfied with our lives.
- Boosted Self-Esteem: Engaging in acts of kindness can boost self-esteem and self-worth. Seeing the positive impact of your actions on others can make you feel valuable and competent, leading to a more positive self-perception.
- Increased Resilience: Practicing kindness can improve your emotional resilience. By focusing on helping others, you develop a more positive outlook on life, which can help you cope better with challenges and setbacks.
- Cultivation of Positive Traits: Practicing kindness encourages the development of virtues like empathy, compassion, and patience. These qualities improve relationships and contribute to personal growth and a positive outlook.
How to practice Kindness
For some lucky ones, Compassion and kindness toward those around us don’t have to be taught. They’re often learned through model behavior and come naturally. But here are tips for others who want to improve their Kindness and compassion.
- Random Act of kindness
- Volunteer
- Thoughtful and planned Donations if you do not have time
- Practice Routine kindness to your near ones, friends, neighbors, and community. Try not to expect anything in return. Do not keep score.
- Teach kindness to kids and co-workers.
- Silent Kindness: In your heart and mind
- Do not forget to be kind to yourself and practice Self Compassion
Tarak Vasavada, MD
Medical director,
Live Well Foundation of Madison County Medical Society